Seeing everything in it's proper place feels good, comfortable, and safe.   When the house is orderly, the dishes are put away, and the magazines are stacked, I feel a sense of order that everything is just fine.  Everything is under control.   Then I get a bill in the mail that totally annoys me.  Or, someone cuts me off from the line at the grocery store.  Better yet, I hear a comment from someone that sounded out of slight towards me.   My heart rate beats faster, my stomach is in knots, and I feel in complete disarray.  No longer in control... I've lost it.

Back when I was an active bulimic (with food and exercise), I'd just binge and purge.  Ahh, what a relief.   The pressure is off and I'm numb again.  I say "again" because I had that calm feeling when I thought everything was under "control".   Clearly that was an illusion... each and every time!  Oh yeah, people were calling me a control freak... and other things, I'm sure.  Only now (many years later) I understand that control doesn't come from other people, places or things in your environment.  It comes from a hunger and need of something deep inside of you that needs attention, release, and freedom.   

I've tried it all... therapists, anti-depressants, group counseling.  I still felt out of control. Out of order.  Out of my mind!  Until I met a hypnotherapist.  Ahh, what a relief.  This time it's the real thing and it was here to stay.

What I learned was that control is a by-product of emotions already set in place.  When you already feel secure, safe, and grounded, only then can then have a sense of control.   However, that type of control will be different because you won't have a desperate hunger and need for it.   You won't even recognize it because you'll no longer be a control freak, so to speak.   Instead, you'll feel good, comfortable, and safe in everything you do, and everywhere you go.  I'll just say that many, many other important things will take up your time and attention when you learn to let go of the "control" on situations outside of yourself.   Is there something(s), or someone that's needing your attention now while you're busy "controlling" everything around you?